A is for Abandon

Origin and meaning of Abandon – from Old French abandoner, from a- (from Latin ad ‘to, at’) + bandon ‘control,’  The original sense was ‘bring under control,’ later ‘give in to the control of, surrender to’ (via Google).

“This is my youngest daughter. She looks better with short hair.”

“Are you sure you want to keep taking roller skating lessons? You aren’t very good.”

“All you want to do is hang with your friends. What about me? After all, I’m your mother.”

The abandonment started at birth. Pregnancy made my mother a queen; motherhood was another story. “Keep crying and I’ll give you something to cry about.” I was 2 weeks old with colic. It’s a good thing my parents produced intelligent children. I was a quick study and learned early to favor my mother in order to keep her attention. No daddy’s girl for me.

It is interesting that the word ‘abandon’ originally meant ‘bring under control.’ That was my mother’s first desire – to have enough control over us to keep us dancing and off balance. It worked for years. Then it stopped working; I said ‘Enough!’ and walked away. I can’t describe how free I felt.


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